“The Buck Stops with You.” Do you agree?
Updated: Dec 22, 2020
Let’s think about it…
I love this quote from the book, The EQ Edge. In this book, they define independence as "the ability to stand on your own two feet, and to acknowledge that the buck stops with you. It means taking charge of your own life, being your own person, and seeking your own direction. People who crave acceptance at any cost and are scared stiff of giving the slightest offense have grave difficulty exercising independence.”
If you have strengths like being self-determined, confident, free from emotional dependence, and decisive, then you are probably independent. Those who do not have a high level of usage in the independence skill often lets others make final decisions, is more of a follower than a leader, and is indecisive.
There’s definitely a balance to be cognizant of if you have strong EQ skills in independence. Even though you may not need reassurance or group consensus to say what you feel, remember it is okay to reach out for help when you need it; always working along can make you appear arrogant and alienating.
Also, there are many ways to increase your EQ in independence, such as "stopping the self-talk" exercises or putting a plan around holding yourself accountable to making decisions.
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