“The more arguments you win, the fewer friends you’ll have.” Do you agree?
Updated: Dec 22, 2020
Let’s think about it…
I love this quote from the book, The EQ Edge. Assertiveness is so often misunderstood. It’s not about always being right and just talking for the sake of talking (I’m sure you’ve met that person who likes hearing their own voice and will say something in a meeting even though it doesn’t provide additional value or an alternative point of view).
According to the book, The EQ Edge, “assertiveness breaks down in three ways. First, you must have sufficient self-awareness to be able to recognize feelings before you express them. Second, you must have sufficient impulse control and emotional expression to express disapproval and even anger (if a degree of anger is called for) without letting it escalate into fury, and to express a range of desires in the appropriate way, with the appropriate intensity. Third and last, you must stand up for your own rights, your own causes, and deeply held beliefs. This means being able to disagree with others without resorting to emotional sabotage and being able to walk a fine line, defending your wishes while, at the same time, respecting another person’s point of view and being sensitive to their needs.”
Simple, right? HA - Assertiveness is a leadership skill that can take some practice! To learn more about EQ Coaching, please reach out to chat.